diff --git a/CHANGELOG.md b/CHANGELOG.md
index 70803d27..40e46eeb 100644
--- a/CHANGELOG.md
+++ b/CHANGELOG.md
@@ -35,7 +35,7 @@ See [Conventional Commits](Https://conventionalcommits.org) for commit guideline
 
 * update to latest spark, support dsls in resource info
 
-* deprecate `:replace` in favor of `:relate_and_unrelate`
+* deprecate `:replace` in favor of `:append_and_remove`
 
 * add `loading?/1` query helper
 
diff --git a/lib/ash/changeset/changeset.ex b/lib/ash/changeset/changeset.ex
index fb31b1f8..2e833717 100644
--- a/lib/ash/changeset/changeset.ex
+++ b/lib/ash/changeset/changeset.ex
@@ -2477,7 +2477,7 @@ defmodule Ash.Changeset do
       changeset,
       relationship,
       record_or_records,
-      Keyword.put(opts, :type, :relate_and_unrelate)
+      Keyword.put(opts, :type, :append_and_remove)
     )
   end